Saturday, February 06, 2010

The newest thing (not really) in gay "marriages": open marriages

We interrupt your regular propagandizing about how gay relationships are just like heterosexual ones to bring you this important revelation from the New York Times:

As the trial phase of the constitutional battle to overturn the Proposition 8 ban on same-sex marriage concludes in federal court, gay nuptials are portrayed by opponents as an effort to rewrite the traditional rules of matrimony. Quietly, outside of the news media and courtroom spotlight, many gay couples are doing just that, according to groundbreaking new research.

A study to be released next month is offering a rare glimpse inside gay relationships and reveals that monogamy is not a central feature for many. Some gay men and lesbians argue that, as a result, they have stronger, longer-lasting and more honest relationships. And while that may sound counterintuitive, some experts say boundary-challenging gay relationships represent an evolution in marriage — one that might point the way for the survival of the institution.

New research at San Francisco State University reveals just how common open relationships are among gay men and lesbians in the Bay Area. The Gay Couples Study has followed 556 male couples for three years — about 50 percent of those surveyed have sex outside their relationships, with the knowledge and approval of their partners.

That consent is key. “With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating,” said Colleen Hoff, the study’s principal investigator, “but with gay people it does not have such negative connotations.”

Read the rest here.

We now return you to your regular programming about how same sex marriage will not corrupt the institution of marriage.


Lee said...

They kinda let the cat out of the bag on this one, didn't they?

Art said...

So, Martin, just how does this stand gay marriages apart from straight marriages, many or most of which are afflicted with infidelity and other manner of, um, "Christian" behavior?

Sounds to me like the distinctions are not very great.

Martin Cothran said...


Are you saying that you think 50 percent of heterosexual marriages involve sex outside of their marriage with the mutual permission of the partners?